Holding Space for All Feelings This Holiday

Today, as fireworks echo across neighborhoods and social media fills with celebration, I find myself sitting with a different energy. Not anger, not judgment of those who are celebrating, but a quiet awareness that holidays can hold complex emotions for many of us.

At Nurture, we've always believed in meeting people exactly where they are. That means honoring the full spectrum of human experience - the joy and the grief, the hope and the heartbreak, the celebration and the contemplation.

When Celebration Feels Complicated

Maybe you're someone who typically loves the 4th of July - the barbecues, the sparklers, the sense of community. But this year feels different. Your feelings might be tangled up in disappointment, concern, or simply a need for quiet reflection instead of loud celebration.

Maybe you're feeling disconnected from traditional expressions of patriotism while still deeply loving the people and places that make up your community.

Maybe you're holding space for those who are struggling right now, and celebration feels too far from where your heart is.

Or maybe you're celebrating wholeheartedly, and that's exactly right for you.

All of these experiences are valid. All of these feelings deserve space.

The Practice of Holding Multiple Truths

In yoga, we learn that we can hold seemingly contradictory things at the same time. We can love deeply and feel disappointed. We can hope for better while grieving what is. We can care about our community while questioning systems. We can choose quiet reflection over loud celebration without it meaning we don't care.

This is what we practice on our mats - the ability to sit with discomfort, to breathe through complexity, to honor what's true for us in this moment without needing to fix or change or explain it away.

A Different Kind of Gathering

Instead of traditional celebration today, I'm drawn to something quieter. A recognition that true patriotism might look like caring deeply about all people in our communities. That loving your country might mean working toward the values you believe it could embody.

At Nurture, we've always been about radical inclusion - creating space where neurodivergent folks feel safe, where bodies of all abilities are honored, where emotional expression is welcomed, where you can show up exactly as you are without needing to perform or pretend.

This feels like the most American thing we can do - creating beloved community where everyone belongs.

Moving Forward Together

If you're struggling with complicated feelings today, you're not alone. If you're celebrating and that feels right for you, that's beautiful too. If you're somewhere in between, welcome to the human experience.

What I know for sure is this: we need spaces where we can feel everything we're feeling without judgment. We need communities that hold us through the hard seasons and celebrate with us in the joyful ones. We need practices that help us stay grounded when the world feels chaotic.

This is what we're building at Nurture - not just a yoga studio, but a sanctuary. A place where your full humanity is not only accepted but celebrated. Where we practice loving ourselves and each other exactly as we are, while also believing we can grow into who we're meant to become.

An Invitation

Whether you're celebrating today or contemplating, whether you're gathering with others or seeking solitude, whether you're feeling hopeful or heavy-hearted - you have a place here.

Come as you are. Feel what you feel. Breathe through it all.

And when you're ready, let's practice together the kind of community we want to see in the world - one breath, one moment of radical acceptance, one genuine connection at a time.

If you're looking for community or a gentle place to land, we're here. Check our class schedule or simply reach out - sometimes we all need reminding that we're not alone in what we're feeling.

The Gift of Not Knowing: Why Your Past Self Did the Best They Could

Last night, I found myself with a rare moment of quiet - no emails demanding attention, no one needing my care or guidance, no deadlines looming, no endless task list running through my mind. Whether you're a parent, caregiver, or busy professional (or all three), you know how precious these uninterrupted moments are. In that stillness, I began reflecting on different aspects of my life: my work, my relationships, my personal growth, and the constant juggling act of tending to others while managing professional responsibilities.

In the quiet of that moment, a familiar thought crept in, one that visits me more often than I'd like to admit: "If only I knew then what I know now." It's that persistent voice that whispers about all the ways I could have handled that stressful project better, responded to caregiving challenges with more patience, or navigated difficult career transitions with greater wisdom.

But then something shifted. I realized this thought pattern, which I'd always accepted as normal self-reflection, was actually harmful.

The Myth of Perfect Hindsight

Introspection is a gift if used wisely. When we examine our past experiences with curiosity and compassion, we can extract valuable lessons that guide future decisions. But there's a dark side to looking backward - the trap of believing we could have or should have known better. This form of reflection assumes that our past selves had access to the same knowledge, emotional maturity, and life experience we possess today. It's like expecting a first-grader to solve calculus problems simply because they'll understand calculus if they go to college one day.

Here's what that critical inner voice conveniently forgets: growth requires making mistakes. Learning demands trial and error. Resilience is built through weathering storms, not avoiding them. Even if we had read every professional development book before starting our first job, or absorbed every piece of caregiving advice before taking on that responsibility, we would still need hands-on experience to truly understand. Knowledge becomes wisdom only when it's tested in the real world, shaped by our unique circumstances, and refined through our personal journey.

When Too Much Knowledge Becomes Paralysis

Here's the paradox we rarely talk about: sometimes seeking too much knowledge actually makes things worse. I have fallen into this before, when at first my intention of trying to learn and be a better (insert all the hats I wear, such as caregiver, professional, the list goes on!) For me, it could be asking a question with a social media post, and 100 comments later, there’s conflicting advice that leaves me more confused than when I first started. My mind is swirling with more indecision than before. Talk about Information overwhelm!? 

The quest for certainty can rob us of the confidence to trust ourselves. Sometimes the best thing we can do is step away from the books, stop polling our friends, and listen to what our own experience is telling us.

The Courage to Try Despite Fear

Fear of failure keeps so many of us from trying new things, taking risks, or stepping into growth opportunities. We become paralyzed by the possibility of making mistakes, forgetting that mistakes are not evidence of inadequacy - they're proof that we're learning.

You are more capable than you think. That voice telling you you're not ready, not experienced enough, not wise enough? It's lying. You have an inner wisdom that deserves your trust, even when - especially when - you're navigating uncharted territory.

Reconnecting with Your Inner Wisdom

As busy professionals, parents, and caregivers, we often live so much in our heads - analyzing, planning, worrying- that we lose connection with our bodies and intuitive wisdom. When caught in cycles of overthinking, our nervous system stays activated, making it harder to access that quiet inner voice. This is where gentle movement practices like restorative or slow flow yoga become invaluable - not for perfect poses, but for creating space to breathe and reconnect with yourself. Consider taking a class this week and notice how moving mindfully mirrors the self-compassion we're cultivating in our thoughts.

You're Doing Better Than You Think

As you move through your days - working, caregiving, creating, building relationships, pursuing goals, navigating challenges - remember that you don't need to have it all figured out. Stay open to feedback from people you trust and respect, but don't feel obligated to seek everyone's opinion. Sometimes the best book to read is the one written by your own experience.

Listen to your intuition, even when it whispers instead of shouts. Trust that you can handle whatever comes your way, even if you don't have a manual for it.

You are so loved, and you are doing a better job than you're giving yourself credit for. The person you were yesterday brought you to who you are today. Honor that journey, embrace the learning, and trust yourself to keep growing.

After all, the gift of not knowing everything is that it leaves room for discovery, growth, and the beautiful messiness of being human.